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  • Ronke Bamiduro

The Importance of Embracing Failures

Updated: Feb 13

Life is hard. Life is messy. Life is unpredictable. But perhaps, that is where the beauty in it lies: our ability to try new things, make mistakes, and try again. But overthinking is natural of human nature and we often sink into spirals of thought and difficulty, we can't stay like this forever. We need to understand the trajectory of life. It is something that I am still navigating myself, but I am getting better at accepting. So, let's have the conversation: why do we need FAILURE?

a man holding a sign that says 'failure'

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We need to build resilience.

Things will often times not go to plan, whether that's in terms of schooling, your friendships, your work life, your relationships or your future prospects. In my time in high school, I had my highs and lows: from starting off with a C average to being valedictorian of my class and everywhere in between. The thing I think we forget is that life is not a linear journey; it very much mimics the motion of a rollercoaster. There'll be peaks where you're enjoying what you're doing and are very happy with how things are going and there'll be troughs where things get tough. But you wouldn't stop a rollercoaster. So don't stop the ride of life. Just sit back, take it all in and enjoy the ride.

a couple on a rollercoaster with people in the background
Life is unpredictable; enjoy where it takes you

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It's human

In an age where social media, unrealistic norms and silent competition reign, now more than ever it

is essential for us to embrace what makes us human and part of that is knowing that at some point, things are not going to go as planned and that's okay. Rather than fearing what people think and what this does to the trajectory of your life, take comfort in knowing that regardless, you'll bounce back every time (and yes, you will fail countless times!) and be even better each time; not just at handling the failure but also in your approach to whatever it is and the outcomes that you produce. Remember, the only person you're competing with is the past you.

A woman completing a marathon
Life is very much like a marathon; there'll be parts that are easy and others not. But you must keep going regardless!

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Emotional and Mental Growth.

Leading on from my last point, I like to see failure as an opportunity, a favour from the Universe. Think of it this way, if you succeed, of course that's amazing but you've obviously done whatever you were required, so there's nothing to learn in that aspect. Failure forces you to consider what you did well, what you need to improve on, what you're hoping to learn and what your action plan for your next attempt is. Failure equals growth. You grow in terms of your mindset by not feeling defeated. You grow in terms of your thought process by having to consider different things that help you improve. And you grow in terms of your work ethic by working hard to improve. It's healthy to feel upset when you've failed but don't let setbacks keep you back. Use them as fuel to propel you forward in whatever aspect of your life.

A stocks graph.
This graph provides the perfect analogy for life: you're in competition with no-one but yourself and you'll go through many periods of ease and difficulty. The important thing is to keep going.

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Food for thought

No-one's perfect. We're all bound to make mistakes at different points and that's the beauty of life, I think. You're constantly improving and constantly learning. And in this way, we're able to approach the world from different perspectives and impart a change by just being a little different. Failure is the precursor to success.

A woman feeling happy about her successes.
Smile--there's so much to be thankful for! And never give up :)

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