With the summer season coming to a close, many of us will be returning to school, university, or jobs, and one thing is definite: everyone will have less spare time. Workloads can easily become overwhelming and make maintaining the social aspect of our lives challenging. This can be twice as intimidating when you have a romantic partner to commit to. As a result, many couples will face adversities or even break up to focus on their studies. However, breaking up isn't always necessary if both parties can manage their time and goals efficiently and maturely.
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Communication is Key
If there's one thing you take away from this article, it should be the importance of communication. The easiest way for problems to arise within a relationship is if there is a misunderstanding between both parties, and if both you and your partner are busy, it is unlikely that these issues will be resolved smoothly. Due to this, it is crucial to articulate your ambitions for school and expectations for your relationship early on. If you are unsure how to go about speaking with your partner regarding this topic, there are a few pointers I find to be significant:
Discuss what your schedules look like. Once your partner recognizes and understands why you may not be available to be with them, or vice versa, it can be much easier to balance time between studies, self-care, and your relationship. Being with each other shouldn't be a chore on your to-do list, so both parties should be honest and direct about when it would be best to hang out.
Set boundaries in place. Boundaries may look different in every couple; nevertheless, they are an anchor of many successful relationships. Knowing what is and isn't okay with your partner, especially within the madness of your individual lives, can instill a greater sense of trust in your relationship with your significant other. Also, be open to the fact that boundaries may or may not change over time, and that is perfectly okay too.
Be realistic and self-aware. It's always great to find time to simply be with your partner, but it isn't too great of an idea to do so when you have upcoming deadlines, exams, or any studying pending. Procrastination is a one-way ticket to burnout and a very poor habit that isn't easy to get rid of. Make sure to place your priorities first—and also make sure or remind your partner to do the same.
If problems do arise, be clear with your partner about what may be going on. Before jumping to conclusions occurs, listen to what the other person has to say first. Having patience for your partner and yourself is rather important, especially at a young age, so make sure both of you feel safe and comfortable discussing your complications.
No relationship is ever going to be perfect. Even couples who may appear flawless on the surface may have their issues that nobody sees. Having a bustling life outside of your relationship is difficult enough to manage as well. However, if both you and your partner are making a genuine effort to achieve all of the above, whilst making sure your connection with each other is genuine and fulfilling, that is more than impressive.
I'd like to give a shout-out to two long-time friends of mine, Felipe and Sophia, who assisted me in gathering the advice for this article (you two are amazing)!
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